Intro to the Essential Parenting Blog
Are you interested in how attachment affects the developing brain? How our relationship with our children actually changes the way they experience themselves and the world? And how mindfulness practice...
View ArticleAttachment is ….
Attachment can be looked at from many different angles, but in broad terms: Attachment is the scientific study of human relationships. Since the early 1950s the research has been accumulating and it...
View ArticleWake Up
Here is a little Arcade Fire wisdom for the week. Reflect on how this relates to the topic of preserving wholeness — in ourselves and in our children — and we will come at it again next week. (Hope the...
View ArticlePreserving Intrinsic Motivation
“When unconditional love and genuine enthusiasm are always present, “Good job!” isn’t necessary; when it’s absent, ‘Good job!’ won’t help.” Alfie Kohn The use of punishments and rewards is not the...
View ArticleA Sneak-Peek at the Home Course
Happy holidays everyone! I hope you are enjoying your families during this time of togetherness. I have decided to take this week’s blog to give a you a sneak-peek at The Essential Parenting Home...
View ArticleTake Crying Seriously; But Not Too Seriously
Let’s be honest—crying is tough on the nervous system. And it is designed to be. When children have an unmet need that is beginning to really cause a disruption in their nervous system, they cry or get...
View ArticleAttachment is Hierarchical
Discipline — the development of an ordered mind that underlies the capacities of self-motivation, self-direction, responsible action, and respectful interactions (among others) — is a long-term...
View ArticleShaming Your Child Online
I saw this video and just wanted to cry. “Through no fault of my own, I am unlikely to grow into a confident, self-disciplined, and loving adult.” What is so so sad about it? Not only that a man can’t...
View ArticleHow Children Develop Empathy
Guest post by Carmen Gamper When we are born, empathy is not part of our skill set. We still float in an ocean of oneness and cannot yet distinguish between “you” and “me.” We feel in union with our...
View ArticleSchooled by the Kids
The other day, my boys gave me a real schooling. Kai and Bodhi schooling their daddy We were driving to the beach and some bicyclists were really hogging up the road. I got a little impatient with...
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